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Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Is There Something You Can Do About This?

Al is my next door neighbor. He leaves his doors and windows open most days so as to conserve on energy I would guess. Often I hear Al singing at the top of his lungs to recordings. One day he invited me over to hear his form of Karaoke. He has all the equipment one could imagine. Al lost his wife two years ago and he shared with me that singing helps with the loneliness. He sits all day long, day after day, alone in his apartment. He told me that since his wife passed, "I am so lonely. I can hardly stand it." Sue and I are going to make it a point to visit with him as often as possible.

My heart goes out to all of those in similar situations. There are millions of people struggling with loneliness. Surely some of them are within 'shouting' distance of where you live. Are you looking for them with a heart inclined to lessen their suffering?

What to Do With a Friend Who Is Lonely

One reason people avoid helping a lonely friend is because they already feel stressed out and think that their friend will be a drag on their precious time. In fact, you're probably more likely to call a busy friend who doesn't have time for you than a lonely one that needs your support. So starting today, change this approach. Lonely people don't expect you to be there for them 24/7, but they do need some kindness.
 
Here are some ideas for including a lonely friend in your life, even when you're busy:

  • Invite them along to a regular get-together you might be having with another friend.

  • Ask them if they want to come with you to run an errand. You can chat and get to know each other as you both grocery shop or run the kids to their appointments.

  • Ask them over when you have a family dinner. Your family has to eat, and so does your friend. Combine the two.

  • Help them make a connection by introducing them to your other friends.

  • Feel like chilling out in front of the TV? Ask a friend over to join you.

  • Call to check in on them occasionally.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        God will bless you immeasurably!